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Unseen and Unheard: How “Weathering” Impacts Black Women’s Health The Hidden Toll of Racial Discrimination As we observe Gender Equality Week, it’s crucial to address a critical issue that often goes unnoticed: the accelerated aging and disproportionate health risks Black Women face due to “weathering.” This concept, rooted in the ongoing stress of racial discrimination, shows that Black Women’s bodies bear the toll of a lifetime of social injustice, leading to earlier onset of diseases like heart conditions and diabetes. The Gap in Research Research has long excluded Black Women, distorting the data that informs medical treatments and interventions. The 1994 SWAN study is one such example. The study focused on evaluating the health of middle-aged women; however, it overlooked the inclusion of many Black women who had experienced early menopause. This omission resulted in a gap in understanding how race-based stressors, like discrimination, contribute to premature aging among this demographic.         New Findings on Chronic Diseases Dr. Alexis Reeves’ most recent study has revisited previous findings and concluded that Black and Hispanic women tend to develop chronic diseases at a significantly earlier age than previously estimated. The research found that conditions such as heart disease can manifest up to five years earlier in Black Women. This highlights the pressing need for researchers to take into account the concept of “weathering” in their studies on chronic diseases among women of colour. The Impact of Exclusion This exclusion is not only harmful but perpetuates health inequalities. Allostatic load—the measure of the body’s stress response—shows that by age 45, half of Black women experience the burden of chronic stress, with the number increasing to over 80% by age 64. It’s important to address these issues and work towards creating a more equitable and inclusive healthcare system for all individuals, regardless of race or ethnicity. Advocacy for Inclusive Research At the Velma Carter Centre, we are committed to advocating for inclusive research that factors in the lived experiences of Black Women. Without their inclusion, studies will continue to miss the full picture, offering inaccurate health advice that fails to serve women of colour. Let’s use Gender Equality Week as a moment to recognize the disparities in healthcare and demand better. We must ensure that research reflects the real, diverse experiences of all women, especially those most affected by inequality.  

A Healing-Centered Approach: Nurturing Collective Well-Being The Velma Carter Centre is an organization that has been established to address the challenges that Black Women face in today’s fast-paced world. There is no denying that stress and trauma are a part of many people’s lives, and we believe that our centre can be a symbol of hope and transformation amidst all the chaos.  At the Velma Carter Centre, we are committed to promoting healing, which extends beyond individual experiences and encompasses the collective. We understand that healing is a process that involves not just the person, but also their surroundings, and hence, our approach aims to weave together various aspects such as culture, spirituality, civic action, and community engagement. We believe that by doing so, we can create a more supportive environment that fosters growth and transformation, both at an individual and collective level. We are dedicated to providing a safe space for Black Women to heal and grow, and we believe that our efforts can make a significant difference in the lives of many. Understanding Healing-Centered Approaches Holistic Perspective A healing-centered approach recognizes that healing is not just about addressing physical ailments or mental distress. It encompasses the whole person—their mind, body, spirit, and community. By embracing cultural practices, rituals, and traditions, we honour the interconnectedness of all aspects of well-being. Trauma as a Collective Experience Trauma affects not only the individual but also the fabric of society. When we view trauma through a collective lens, we see patterns emerge—historical trauma, systemic oppression, and shared pain. Healing becomes a communal endeavor, where we acknowledge the wounds of the past and work toward restoration. Shifting the Question Traditional trauma-informed care often asks, “What happened to you?” While this question is essential, a healing-centered approach expands our inquiry. We ask, “What’s right with you?” By focusing on strengths, resilience, and agency, we empower individuals to co-create their well-being narratives. Agents of Their Own Healing We recognize that those exposed to trauma are not mere victims. They are agents of their own healing. By fostering self-determination, we encourage individuals to reclaim their power, rewrite their stories, and contribute to the healing of their communities. Spirituality as a Path to Healing Spirituality can provide a source of comfort, guidance, and strength during challenging times. We recognize the importance of spirituality in the healing process and offer spiritual support services tailored to the needs of Black Women. Whether through prayer, meditation, or reflection, we encourage individuals to explore their spiritual beliefs and practices as a means of finding peace, solace, and inner harmony. By integrating spirituality into our healing-centered approach, we provide holistic support that addresses the spiritual dimensions of well-being. Advocacy and Social Justice Healing is not just an individual journey—it is also a collective responsibility. We are committed to advocating for social justice and addressing the systemic injustices that disproportionately impact Black Women. By amplifying the voices of Black Women and advocating for change, we strive to create a world where everyone has the opportunity to thrive and flourish. Education and Empowerment Knowledge is power. We believe in empowering individuals through education and information. Through workshops, educational content and our programs, we provide Black Women with the tools, resources, and knowledge they need to navigate life’s challenges, advocate for themselves, and make informed decisions about their health and well-being. By equipping individuals with the skills and knowledge to advocate for themselves and their communities, we empower them to take control of their lives and create positive change. Building Bridges Across Communities Healing has no boundaries. We are dedicated to building connections between communities. We strongly believe in the power of solidarity, allyship, and collaboration in promoting healing and driving social change. By partnering with community organizations, businesses, and institutions, we aim to foster cooperation and collaboration to address common challenges and enhance collective well-being. Through coming together across all differences, we can create a more inclusive, equitable, and compassionate society where everyone has the chance to thrive. Ubuntu: The Essence of Healing The concept of Ubuntu is deeply rooted in the South African philosophy and culture. It emphasizes the interconnectedness of humanity and the importance of our relationships with one another.    According to Ubuntu, we find healing and fulfillment through collective engagement, empathy, and service to others. This philosophy teaches us that our own well-being is inseparable from the well-being of our neighbours and community. Therefore, we must strive to promote the common good and work towards a more just and equitable society for all. In essence, Ubuntu encourages us to embrace our shared humanity and work together to build a better world.   The philosophy of Ubuntu is also embraced in other parts of Africa and the Diaspora. Despite all odds, Ubuntu still resides in many of our hearts. Final Thoughts: Embracing the Journey of Healing As we conclude this exploration of healing-centered approaches and the transformative power of collective well-being, we invite you to reflect on the journey ahead. Healing is not a destination but a continuous process—a journey of self-discovery, growth, and resilience. At the Velma Carter Centre, we are committed to walking alongside you on this path, offering support, guidance, and encouragement every step of the way. Love and power, Velma Carter Centre Team

Beyond Achievement: The Essence of Black Excellence In a world where systemic barriers and biases often hinder the progress of Black women, redefining Black Excellence becomes a crucial step towards acknowledging the true essence of their achievements. It’s not about merely succeeding within hostile systems, where the bar is set impossibly high, or being the token representation in spaces that often don’t value diversity. It’s about recognizing the immense challenges Black women face in the workplace, from racism and nepotism to bullying and pay inequity, and understanding that these systemic issues can derail even the most talented and hardworking individuals. How we’re Redefining Black Excellence? At the Velma Carter Centre (VCC), we believe that Black Excellence is about more than just external accomplishments. It’s about the courage to heal and self-actualize in a society that often imposes restrictive roles and expectations on Black women. It’s about reclaiming one’s authentic self and taking small, brave steps towards personal growth and fulfillment. We understand that Black Excellence isn’t always about achieving and acquiring; it’s about how you love and nurture yourself, despite the challenges you face. It’s about finding strength in vulnerability and resilience in adversity. It’s about recognizing that sometimes, the systems we operate in are designed to work against us, and that navigating these systems requires a unique kind of courage and determination. The Struggle Within Systems Black Excellence isn’t a solitary pursuit—it exists within a complex web of systemic barriers and biases. These barriers often hinder the progress of Black women, making their achievements all the more remarkable. Imagine navigating a workplace where racism, nepotism, and pay inequity persist. Black women face these challenges head-on, defying the odds and pushing boundaries. The Invisible Visible Weight of Racism Racism isn’t always overt; it often lurks in the shadows, subtly affecting opportunities and perceptions. Black women encounter microaggressions, biased assumptions, and stereotypes that shape their experiences. Yet, they persist, rewriting narratives and proving that their brilliance transcends prejudice. Nepotism and the Glass Ceiling Nepotism—the favouritism shown to relatives or friends—can be a formidable barrier. In corporate corridors, where connections often pave the way, Black women find themselves at a disadvantage. Breaking through the glass ceiling requires not just competence but also resilience—the ability to shatter preconceptions and rise despite the odds. The Unequal Pay Battle Pay inequity remains a persistent issue. Black women earn significantly less than their white counterparts, even when qualifications and experience align. The fight for equal pay isn’t just about numbers; it’s about dismantling a system that perpetuates disparities. Black Excellence demands fair compensation, recognizing that financial empowerment is a crucial aspect of progress. Beyond Token Representation Being the token representation in spaces that lack diversity is a weighty responsibility. It’s not enough to merely succeed within hostile systems; Black Excellence calls for more. It demands that Black women redefine success on their terms, transcending predefined roles and expectations. It’s about being seen, heard, and valued authentically—not as a checkbox on a diversity checklist. The Burden of Representation When you’re the only Black woman in the room, every achievement carries extra weight. You become a symbol—a beacon of possibility for others who follow. But this role isn’t without challenges. The pressure to perform impeccably, to defy stereotypes, and to represent an entire community can be overwhelming. Black Excellence requires resilience in the face of this burden. Authenticity Over Assimilation Black women often grapple with the tension between assimilation and authenticity. Should they conform to fit existing molds, or should they unapologetically embrace their cultural identity? Black Excellence lies in the latter—a celebration of heritage, language, and traditions. It’s about refusing to dilute oneself for acceptance. Healing and Self-Actualization At the Velma Carter Centre (VCC), we recognize that Black Excellence extends beyond external accolades. It’s about inner transformation—the courage to heal wounds inflicted by societal norms and expectations. Black women self-actualize, reclaiming their authentic selves. Each step toward personal growth becomes a testament to their resilience. The Journey Within Healing isn’t linear; it’s a labyrinth of introspection, forgiveness, and self-love. Black women navigate this journey, confronting generational trauma, historical injustices, and the weight of expectations. They seek therapy, engage in self-care, and build supportive networks. Black Excellence isn’t just about conquering external battles; it’s about tending to the soul. Breaking the Chains of Expectations Society often imposes restrictive roles on Black women—the strong matriarch, the sacrificial nurturer, the unyielding fighter. Black Excellence disrupts these narratives. It’s about saying, “I am more than your expectations.” It’s about pursuing passions, embracing vulnerability, and allowing imperfections. Black women redefine success by their own standards. Loving and Nurturing Oneself Black Excellence isn’t solely about achievement; it’s equally about self-care. Despite the challenges they face, Black women find strength in vulnerability. They nurture themselves, recognizing that self-love is a radical act. Amid adversity, they bloom—like resilient flowers breaking through concrete. The Art of Self-Care Self-care isn’t indulgence; it’s survival. Black women prioritize mental health, seeking solace in meditation, art, or simply a quiet moment. They celebrate their bodies, rejecting harmful beauty standards. Black Excellence thrives when self-love becomes a non-negotiable practice. So, to all the Black women out there who are striving for excellence in the face of adversity, we see you. We acknowledge your struggles, and we celebrate your resilience. Your journey towards self-actualization is a testament to your strength and courage, and we are here to support you every step of the way. Final Thoughts Together, let’s redefine Black Excellence as a journey of self-discovery, healing, and empowerment. Let’s create a world where Black women can thrive, not despite their race and gender, but because of it. Let’s celebrate the true essence of Black Excellence, and let’s do it together. Love and power, Velma Carter Centre Team

Celebrating Womanhood: Embracing the Essence of Black Womanhood In a world that often defines womanhood through narrow lenses, it’s essential to recognize and celebrate the multifaceted experiences of women, particularly Black women. As we honour Women’s History Month, it’s a chance to dive deep into the richness of Black womanhood and really vibe with what it means to hold it down from this intersectional perspective, ya feel me? It’s about recognizing our strength, our beauty, and our resilience, and standing tall in the face of challenges. Let’s come together, lift each other up, and continue to blaze trails for generations to come. Embracing Intersectionality: The Essence of Black Womanhood Intersectionality is a concept that was coined by legal scholar Kimberlé Crenshaw in the late 1980s. It is a framework that recognizes that individuals have multiple identities (such as race, gender, class, sexuality, ability, and more), and that these identities intersect and interact with each other in complex ways. For example, a Black woman may experience discrimination not only because of her race, but also because of her gender. She may face unique challenges that are not experienced by Black men or white women. Similarly, a queer person of colour may face discrimination not only because of their sexual orientation but also because of their race. Intersectionality is about understanding and acknowledging these intersections. It’s about recognizing that individuals are complex and multifaceted, and that their experiences cannot be reduced to a single identity. This framework is important because it allows us to see the ways in which different forms of oppression are interconnected, and it helps us to develop more inclusive and equitable solutions that address the needs of all individuals. Defying Stereotypes: Redefining Beauty and Behaviour Black women have long been defying stereotypes and challenging societal expectations. We’ve been breaking barriers, challenging the status quo, and achieving success in various fields. From the civil rights movement to the present day, Black women have been at the forefront of social change and progress. We’ve been leading the way, and we’re not about to stop now. Black women have played a significant role in shaping and creating Black culture and trends. From music to fashion to art, Black women have always been at the forefront of cultural movements. Our distinct style and creativity have influenced popular culture worldwide. When it comes to fashion, Black women have been setting trends for decades. From the bold and colourful outfits worn during the civil rights movement to the unique and innovative styles seen on the runways today, let’s not forget the increasingly popular beauty and hairstyles that were made by Black women. Black women have always been at the forefront of fashion. We’ve created new trends, redefined old ones, and incorporated our own unique flair into everything we do. Black women have also had a significant impact on music. Our voices have been heard in various genres, from jazz to hip hop to R&B, and have influenced the sound of popular music worldwide. We’ve created our own genres, like Afrobeats and Neo-Soul, and have used our music to express our experiences and uplift our communities. Black female musicians have made a significant impact on the music industry. Notable examples include Ella Fitzgerald, Aretha Franklin, Beyoncé, Nina Simone, and Lauryn Hill. These women have won numerous Grammy Awards and have sold millions of records worldwide. However, there are many more Black female musicians out there who have also made significant contributions to the industry. In art, Black women have been creating powerful and meaningful works for centuries. Our art reflects our experiences, our struggles, and our triumphs. We’ve used art to challenge societal norms and to tell our stories in our own voices. Overall, Black women’s influence on culture and trends cannot be ignored. We’ve created and shaped entire movements, and our impact continues to be felt today. Our unique perspectives, creativity, and resilience have helped us break barriers and overcome challenges, inspiring generations to come. Community and Sisterhood: The Heartbeat of Black Womanhood Black womanhood is a rich and complex identity that has been shaped by centuries of struggle, resistance, and survival. At the heart of this identity lies a deep sense of community and sisterhood, where the bonds of solidarity and support are paramount. For Black women, it’s not just about individual success, but about uplifting and amplifying each other’s voices, advocating for collective liberation, and standing in solidarity with other marginalized communities. Black women have long been at the forefront of social justice movements, fighting for the rights and dignity of all people. They have cultivated spaces of healing, empowerment, and growth, where the bonds of sisterhood transcend boundaries and empower us to thrive. These spaces are crucial for Black women, who have historically been excluded from mainstream institutions and have had to create their own communities of support. Through their activism, leadership, and creative expression, Black women have contributed immensely to shaping the culture and politics of our society. They have inspired generations of women to embrace their power and voice, and to work towards creating a more just and equitable world for all. Black womanhood is a testament to the resilience, strength, and beauty of the human spirit, and it continues to shape our understanding of what it means to be a woman in today’s world. Celebrating Legacy and Leadership: Trailblazers and Change-Makers Black womanhood is a legacy of trailblazers and change-makers who have left an indelible mark on history and culture. Like educator and civil rights activists like Velma Carter who challenged biases and pioneered innovative teaching methods, leaving a lasting impact on education and activism. Carter’s commitment to preserving Black history through her writings andcommunity initiatives, like the Velma Carter Centre for African-Canadian Women, continue to inspire generations, emphasizing the importance of resilience, innovation, and community upliftment. Viola Desmond was a Canadian civil rights activist and businesswoman who became a prominent figure in the fight against racial segregation in Canada. Born in 1914 in Halifax, Nova Scotia,

https://velmacarter.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/BHM-Velma-Reclaiming-Black-History-Video.mp4 Velma Carter Video Velma Carter: Reclaiming Black History with Purpose and Passion Velma Carter’s indomitable spirit, visionary outlook, and relentless determination have made her an emblem of hope and motivation for Black history and Black communities around the world. Her legacy of resilience and foresight continues to inspire generations to come, reminding us all of the power of perseverance in the face of adversity. This blog is more than a tribute; it’s an exploration of the spirit of Velma Carter. Each accomplishment and endeavour serves as a lesson, an education in resilience and a catalyst for life-changing reflections. Join us on this journey, as we dive into the chapters of Velma’s extraordinary life—a life that not only impacted her time but continues to shape and transform Black legacies.  Early Life Velma Carter’s life, a testament to tenacity and foresight, isn’t just a redefinition; it’s a profound transformation of what it means to be Black. Guided by enduring principles of self-determination and community upliftment, instilled by her parents, her legacy becomes a symbol of change. In early 20th-century Alberta, being Black posed distinct challenges. Racial prejudices and systemic inequalities were deeply rooted, leading to discrimination in education and employment. In predominantly white communities, the absence of representation amplified feelings of isolation and the constant need for identity redefinition. For Velma Carter, being born in Wildwood, Alberta, in 1912 meant navigating a world where racial tensions and biases were palpable. The scarcity of resources and opportunities for Black families, coupled with the limited societal understanding of diversity, made daily life an uphill battle. Educational institutions, employment opportunities, and social interactions were often marred by racial prejudice, making it a formidable task for Black individuals, including Velma, to assert their identity and establish a sense of belonging. Education as Liberation Velma’s journey continued to unfold with a blend of determination and resilience. As a young woman, she not only defied gender stereotypes by working alongside her brother with workhorses but also developed a keen interest in horticulture, agriculture, and natural remedies. These skills laid the foundation for the holistic lifestyle she would later champion. Velma’s advanced intellect didn’t go unnoticed, prompting her family to advocate for a rigorous education in Edmonton. Despite facing racial discrimination in school admissions, Velma’s family, led by her grandfather Rev. Frank Henderson, persevered, and she not only gained entry but surpassed expectations, setting her on a path of academic success. Velma’s story becomes even more poignant when considering the broader context of racial injustice at the time. While she triumphed at Victoria Composite High School, other Black girls were being relegated to domestic roles in a nearby school, highlighting the pervasive institutional racism of the era. These early encounters with systemic discrimination solidified Velma’s belief in challenging assumptions about her abilities and the necessity of confronting barriers to achieve her aspirations. Her life became a testament to grit, discipline, and the unwavering resolve to defy the limitations imposed by a biased society. Innovative Teaching, Lasting Impact Velma, an extraordinary educator, defied boundaries, making an enduring impact on education. Assigned to a one-room schoolhouse in Clansdonald, she confronted bigotry creatively, shaping both students and the community. In the face of racial prejudice, Velma pioneered innovative teaching methods, turning her classroom into a source of inspiration. Her philosophy challenged biases, emphasizing equal intelligence among all students, fostering empowerment and laying the groundwork for generations to come. Velma’s influence wasn’t confined to textbooks; she created an inclusive and supportive atmosphere that resonated beyond the classroom, breaking down racial barriers in the community. By championing equal intelligence and employing innovative techniques, she became a pioneer, leaving a legacy of empowerment that continues to shape lives and redefine education. The Berkeley Years After 12 years of teaching in small Alberta villages, Velma Carter co-ran the Leffler General Store in Wildwood with her brother Frank, refining her business skills and setting the stage for future endeavors. In 1946, seeking more, she left for Berkeley, California, marrying Texan Mitchell Carter and becoming a mother to Le Vero by 1948. Over the next 25 years, Velma excelled in education, teaching in predominantly Black schools and reaching the rare position of vice-principal for a Black woman. The 1960s in Berkeley marked a cultural revolution, where Velma immersed herself in Black thought, cultural resistance, and the women’s liberation movement. Dubbed “The Original Women’s Libber” by her son Le Vero, Velma embodied liberation principles before they hit the mainstream. Guided by Marcus Garvey’s mantra, she intensified her commitment to shaping young Black minds, making her classroom a battleground as the revolution unfolded. Velma’s progressive teaching methods led to recognition and a pivotal role in the early days of Head Start. Her innovative approach caught the attention of program architects, and, she left an indelible mark on an initiative designed to end poverty through curiosity and a love of learning. Velma’s influence extended beyond education. She became an integral part of an organization supporting over a million children in North America and played a role in birthing the iconic TV show we love—Sesame Street. Velma Carter, a Black woman from Wildwood, Alberta, left a lasting legacy in education, activism, and culture. Preserving Black History Returning to Alberta, Velma faced regressive mentalities with compassion, leaving an indelible mark on Black history preservation. Her journey from personal struggles to respected author and documentarian marked a turning point in recognizing diverse Black experiences. In literature, Velma’s works like “Windows of Our Memories” and “The Black Canadians” weren’t just stories—they challenged historical narratives. “Windows of Our Memories” spotlighted overlooked Black contributions in Alberta, dismantling historical silences with vibrant narratives. “The Black Canadians” dived into the broader Black diaspora in Canada, offering a nuanced understanding of Black history. Velma’s commitment wasn’t just about recording facts; it was about empowering Black students with positive narratives long denied to them. Velma’s impact transcended her books, guiding educators and historians to embrace a more inclusive Canadian history. By challenging historical norms, she documented the past and

Galentine’s: Celebrating Sisterhood, Self-Love, and Pure Vibes! Hey Queens, it’s that time of the year again – the month of love, friendship, and all-around good vibes! Forget the traditional Valentine’s Day, and let’s talk about why this year, you absolutely need to have a Galentine’s celebration. Trust us; it’s about to be a whole vibe. Sisterhood Boosts Mental Health Beyond the laughter and good times, sisterhood plays a crucial role in our mental well-being. Numerous studies have highlighted the positive impact of strong female friendships on mental health. The support, understanding, and shared experiences within sisterhood contribute to lower stress levels, decreased feelings of loneliness, and an overall sense of belonging. Research has shown that women with close-knit friend groups tend to have lower levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. The camaraderie and emotional support from our gal pals act as a natural stress buster, promoting a healthier mental state. Moreover, the sense of belonging that comes with sisterhood fosters resilience in the face of life’s challenges. Knowing you have a tribe of strong, supportive women by your side can significantly improve your mental well-being. So, this Galentine’s, not only are you celebrating the amazing women in your life, but you’re also investing in your mental health. It’s more than just a get-together; it’s a mental health boost that lasts long after the day is over. Cheers to sisterhood, self-love, and the power of a fabulous tribe! Reasons You Should Do a Galentine’s This Year 1. Unfiltered Real Talk Galentine’s is the ultimate safe space for real talk. No judgments, just genuine conversations with your favourite people. Pour the tea, spill the truths, and bask in the warmth of authentic connections. 2. Self-Love Extravaganza This year, let’s flip the script. Galentine’s is the perfect excuse to celebrate YOU! Treat yourself to a spa day, indulge in your favourite treats, and bask in the glow of your own fabulousness. Self-love is the name of the game, and you’re the reigning queen. 3. Sisterhood Solidarity Galentine’s is a celebration of sisterhood – the kind that stands the test of time. Cherish and uplift each other, because true queens fix each other’s crowns. Ideas For Your Next Galentine’s 1. Friendship Time Capsule Take some quiet time to reflect on your journey and celebrate your achievements. Create a list of affirmations that uplift and empower you. Repeat them daily to cultivate a positive mindset. 2. DIY Craft Night Get your creative juices flowing with a DIY craft night. Whether it’s customizing tote bags, making friendship bracelets, or painting canvases, let your artistic sides shine. 3. Spa Day at Home Transform your space into a spa retreat. Facemasks, mani-pedis, and relaxation – it’s the ultimate self-care Galentine’s experience. 4. Movie Marathon Create a movie marathon with your favourite chick flicks or classic comedies. Don’t forget the popcorn and cozy blankets for the ultimate movie night. 5. Karaoke Night Sing your hearts out with a karaoke night. Whether you’re hitting the town or staying in, it’s all about letting loose and having a ton of fun. 6. Vision Board Party Map out your dreams and aspirations with a vision board party. Share your goals, dreams, and visions for the future while creating a visual representation. 7. Virtual Wine Tasting If you can’t be together in person, host a virtual wine tasting. Each gal can pick her favourite wine, and you can enjoy a guided tasting together. 8. Retro Game Night Dig out those old board games or video games from your childhood and have a retro game night. Nostalgia and friendly competition – the perfect combo! Choose one or mix and match – the most important thing is to celebrate each other and the incredible bond you share. So, why should you have Galentine’s this year? Because, darling, you deserve a day filled with love, laughter, and unapologetic fabulousness. Get ready to slay, celebrate your squad, and create memories that will last a lifetime. Galentine’s, we’re coming for you! Love and power, Velma Carter Centre Team

Self-Love: Your Blueprint for Happiness Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and what better way to celebrate than by showering ourselves with the most precious gift of all—self-love! This season, let’s explore the power of self-love and how women can harness their inner strength. The Impact of Self-Love on Well-Being Many studies have explored the deep correlation between self-love and general happiness. The findings consistently reveal that individuals who practice self-love experience heightened levels of happiness and contentment. Self-love has a positive impact on well-being. Here’s why. 1. Enhanced Mental Health Self-love is the practice of accepting oneself fully, treating oneself with kindness and respect, and nurturing one’s growth and well-being. Studies have shown that practicing self-love is linked to reduced symptoms of anxiety and depression and leads to a more positive self-image and improved mental well-being. 2. Improved Stress Resilience Studies have shown that practicing self-love can help improve stress resilience. When we have a high sense of self-love, we’re able to look at challenges as temporary setbacks or even as opportunities for growth. This attitude helps us become more resilient. 3. Increased Life Satisfaction Research suggests a strong correlation between self-love and overall life satisfaction. Individuals who consciously engage in self-love practices tend to express higher levels of fulfillment in various aspects of their lives. 4. Better Relationship Dynamics Loving oneself lays the foundation for healthier interpersonal relationships. Studies show that individuals with a strong sense of self-love are better equipped to form and maintain positive connections with others. 5. Elevated Physical Well-Being The benefits of self-love extend beyond the mental realm. Studies reveal that those who prioritize self-care and self-love often experience improved physical health, including better immune function and lower rates of chronic illnesses. 6. Positive Emotion Regulation Self-love is associated with improved emotional regulation. Individuals who cultivate self-love tend to handle emotions more constructively, leading to a more positive and balanced emotional state. 7. Longevity and Resilience Research suggests a potential link between self-love and increased longevity. Embracing oneself fosters resilience, contributing to a longer and more fulfilling life. 8. Mind-Body Connection Studies highlight the intricate mind-body connection influenced by self-love. Engaging in self-love practices contributes to reduced inflammation, lower cortisol levels, and an overall healthier physiological state. Your Self-Love Recommendations Here are some ideas and recommendations to make this Valentine’s Day and the entire month a celebration of you: 1. Reflect and Affirm Take some quiet time to reflect on your journey and celebrate your achievements. Create a list of affirmations that uplift and empower you. Repeat them daily to cultivate a positive mindset. 2. Pamper Your Body Treat yourself to a spa day at home. Draw a luxurious bath, indulge in skincare, and pamper your body. Feel the love from head to toe! 3. Solo Date Night Plan a solo date to your favourite restaurant or a place you’ve been wanting to explore. Enjoy your own company, savour the flavours, and relish the freedom of solo adventures. 4. Creative Expression Engage in activities that fuel your creativity. Whether it’s painting, writing, or crafting, let your artistic side flourish. Your creations are a testament to the love you have for your unique self. 5. Mindful Movement Discover the joy of movement that resonates with you. Whether it’s yoga, dancing, or a peaceful nature walk, connect with your body and soul through mindful exercise. 6. Gratitude Journaling Start a gratitude journal, noting down things you love about yourself and the positive aspects of your life. Expressing gratitude enhances self-love and fosters a sense of contentment. 7. Learn Something New Take up a new hobby or skill that has always intrigued you. Learning and growing contribute to a strong sense of self-worth and accomplishment. 8. Book Retreat Immerse yourself in a good book that inspires self-love and empowerment. Choose literature that celebrates strong, independent women and their journeys. 9. Fitness Adventure Start on a fitness adventure that challenges and excites you. Whether it’s a new workout routine or trying a thrilling outdoor activity, revel in the strength and resilience of your body. 10. Acts of Kindness – to Yourself Perform acts of kindness for yourself. It could be as simple as making your favourite meal, buying yourself flowers, or taking a day off to relax and rejuvenate. This Valentine’s Day, and throughout the month, make it a point to prioritize and celebrate the incredible woman that you are. Embrace the power of self-love, and watch as it transforms not just your Valentine’s Day but your entire outlook on life. Because, darling, you are worth celebrating every day! 💖✨ Love and power, Velma Carter Centre Team

New Years Resolution To Take Charge in 2024 As the calendar flips to a new year, it’s our chance to pause, reflect, and envision where we want to be in the future. Now, New Year resolutions often get a bad rap for setting unrealistic goals or adding unnecessary pressure, but let’s flip the script. The Velma Carter Centre team is excited to stand beside you on a journey of self-discovery, growth, and well-being. Our resolutions for 2024 are not just aspirations but a commitment to support the incredible Black women in our community. Let’s redefine resolutions, making them about gradual shifts that align with your unique journey. No Pressure Start Small Starting small might mean resetting our sleep schedule, giving ourselves a bedtime. It could involve organizing our space, tackling one room at a time, beginning with the closet and moving on to the kitchen.    Or perhaps, it’s as straightforward as taking control of our thoughts, infusing our mornings with inspiring quotes and affirmations. These achievable resolutions are about relieving stress, reducing anxiety, and enhancing our overall well-being without piling on more pressure.   When it comes to organizing your space, especially for those with ADHD, it’s essential to find approaches tailored to individual needs. Regular cleaning lists might not resonate, but there are ADHD-specific resources that can make a significant difference. Here are some cleaning tips for those who have ADHD. Check out this free printable cleaning checklist that provides a list of suggested tasks and a blank checklist that can be customized. New Year’s Habits Building Start a Gratitude Journal Taking a few minutes each day to list things, people, and events we’re grateful for can revitalize us. It recharges and refreshes, and a couple of minutes a day can make all the difference. Make Time for Loved Ones In the hustle of daily life, spending quality time with loved ones can take a backseat. This year, let’s consciously carve out one-on-one time, whether through monthly dinners or weekly FaceTime check-ins. Build a Better Budget Saving more money is a resolution that pays off in the long run. Outline a budget that works for you and find apps to make the process painless. Rethink when and how you buy things to save more effectively. Practice Mindfulness In a world that often feels overwhelming, mindfulness is our anchor. It means being grateful for the moment, appreciating where we are, and who we are right now. Committing to mindfulness can make us better individuals in less than a year. Cook Something New Each Week Eating healthier is a common goal, but let’s add variety. Choose an easy dinner recipe you’ve never tried before, at least once a week. Read More Books January is the perfect time to snuggle up with a new book. Join a book club or connect with friends to discuss the best pages you’ve read. Our stories connect us, and books are the vessels that carry them. Create a Cleaning Schedule Tidying up without a weekly deep clean is possible. Carolyn Forté, a cleaning expert, has a printable checklist to keep your house in order without sacrificing your weekends. Drink Less Alcohol Cut back and join the sober, curious movement. It not only improves mood, sleep, and skin but also saves money in the long run. Commit to a Healthier Sleep Routine Poor sleep affects various aspects of our lives. Take charge of your sleep by mastering key habits as the year progresses.   Prioritize Annual Health Screenings  Open your calendar app (or planner!) and make your appointments for the year in one sitting — not only will you get the anxiety-inducing nuisance over with, but exams will be less likely to get squeezed out as life gets wild. Start with your primary care provider, and ask which screenings (e.g., mammogram, colonoscopy) you’re due for. Exercise Your Brain  Scientists are always learning more about how humans work to stave off cognitive decline. Games can play a role in this. Researchers at Duke University found that solving simple math problems feels like a reward, helping to curb negative feelings. Become a Plant Owner  Swing by the garden center after brunch this weekend. Just the presence of indoor plants can lower human stress levels, and actively caring for plants calms the autonomic nervous system and lowers blood pressure. Take the Stairs  Take 10 minutes to run up the stairs in your office, home, or nearby park. A published study in the journal Physiology & Behavior found that tired individuals who climbed stairs for 10 minutes got a bigger energy boost than those who had the caffeine equivalent of a can of soda or half a cup of coffee (and burned calories too!). Plan a Vacation  Women who vacation at least twice a year have a lower heart attack risk than those who do so rarely. Even thinking about an upcoming trip can boost happiness for weeks. Head to a Day Spa Treat yourself — and for good reason. Research indicates that spa services, particularly intensive massages, are effective in managing stress-related cortisol levels while boosting your serotonin. Make Time for Cuddling Cuddling is often underestimated for its ability to bolster physical intimacy. Relationship experts say cuddling can help you feel more connected to your partner than ever. Drink Up You know you need to hydrate — but it’s especially important when you get only six hours of sleep (or less!). Chill Out Literally — start working on letting go of all that anger! Constantly feeling angry can lead to less than desirable long-term effects on your holistic health. Jumpstart a New Career If this is your year to switch gears, there are ways that career experts say you can successfully negotiate what you need to stay happy at work. An executive coach can provide amazing guidance for a career switch. Consider Therapy Reach out to a care provider and consider therapy to unpack your mental health. Get in a Body-Positive Mindset Embrace all shapes, sizes, colours, strengths,

Navigating Holiday Resilience & Self-Care As the holiday season dawns upon us, we acknowledge that returning home isn’t always the idyllic, heartwarming experience we hope for. For many of us, it’s a nuanced journey laden with both joy and challenge. Our families, like us, are not perfect. The holidays can unexpectedly surface past traumas, test our patience, and sometimes even stir up discomfort. It’s important to recognize these feelings as valid and to approach this season with resilience and self-care. Acknowledge Imperfections Our families, like us, carry their stories, wounds, and imperfections. This truth can sometimes make holiday reunions a complex emotional landscape. It’s crucial to understand that it’s okay for things to be imperfect. Imperfections are what make us beautifully human. As Black women, our resilience is woven into the tapestry of our history. Embrace this resilience as you navigate the nuances of family dynamics. Tips for Dealing with Holiday-Induced Trauma Acknowledge Your Feelings  Recognize and accept whatever emotions arise. It’s okay to feel a mix of joy, nostalgia, anger, or sadness. Your feelings are valid, and acknowledging them is the first step toward healing. Set Realistic Expectations Understand that your family may not have transformed overnight. Setting realistic expectations can prevent disappointment and reduce stress.   Practice Self-Compassion Be gentle with yourself. Self-compassion is your armour. Treat yourself with the kindness and understanding you would offer to a dear friend. Remember, you are doing your best.   Create Safe Spaces Identify safe spaces within your family environment. These can be physical spaces where you feel at ease or specific individuals you can confide in. Seek solace in these safe havens.   Establish Boundaries Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Politely communicate your limits and learn to say no without guilt. Your peace of mind matters.   Cultivate Self-Care Rituals Prioritize self-care rituals that nourish your soul. Whether it’s journaling, practicing yoga, or enjoying a warm cup of tea, these moments of self-indulgence can provide solace amidst chaos. Lean on Your Support System Reach out to your chosen family—friends, mentors, or support groups. Sharing your experiences can be cathartic and help you feel understood and validated. Therapeutic Outlets Consider engaging in therapeutic activities, such as art therapy or meditation. These outlets can help process emotions and provide a sense of release. Stay Mindful Stay present in the moment. Mindfulness can ground you, helping you cope with overwhelming emotions. Deep breaths and grounding exercises can be invaluable tools.   Professional Support  If feelings of trauma or depression persist, consider seeking professional help. Therapists specializing in trauma can provide tailored guidance and support.Remember, your journey is unique, and your strength is immeasurable. The holidays can be transformative, offering opportunities for healing and growth. By honouring your emotions, setting boundaries, and practicing self-compassion, you can transform this homecoming into a transformative experience.With love, support and understanding,Velma Carter Centre Team

Breaking Chains: Black Women Can Heal Black women have woven threads of resilience, strength, and grace in the tapestry of life. However, beneath this remarkable strength lies the weight of unspoken traumas, generational wounds, and societal pressures. Often, this burden is carried silently, and the pain is masked with a smile. But it’s time to acknowledge and address this pain, and to heal from it. This blog serves as a sanctuary, a guiding light, and a testament to the power of healing for Black women. Embracing the Reality of Trauma Before we talk about healing, we must acknowledge the depth of the wounds. Generational trauma, racial injustice, gender biases – these are not abstract concepts but harsh realities that have seeped into the very fabric of Black women’s lives. It’s a pain that often goes unnoticed, masked by the strength that society expects Black women to possess. But within the core of this strength lies vulnerability, and it’s okay to embrace that vulnerability. Healing begins with acknowledging the pain, understanding its origins, and accepting that it’s not a sign of weakness but a testament to enduring strength. The Healing Journey Healing is not a linear path; it’s a journey marked by twists, turns, and occasional setbacks. It’s about giving yourself permission to feel, to grieve, and to confront the shadows of the past. For Black women, this journey involves rediscovering their identity, reconnecting with their roots, and reclaiming their narratives. It’s about breaking the chains that bind, the chains of societal expectations, self-doubt, and internalized oppression. It’s a profound act of self-love and self-preservation.  The Stages of Healing 1. Acknowledgment and Acceptance The first step toward healing is acknowledging the pain, trauma, and wounds that exist. It’s an act of bravery to confront the depth of these emotions, to recognize that vulnerability is not a flaw but a testament to enduring strength. Acceptance doesn’t mean surrendering to the pain; it means understanding that it exists and deserves attention. It’s about embracing the truth that healing is necessary and that seeking help is a courageous choice.   2.  Understanding Roots and Triggers To heal, one must understand the roots of their pain. For Black women, this involves delving into the layers of generational trauma, societal injustices, and personal experiences. It’s recognizing the triggers that evoke emotional responses and tracing them back to their source. Understanding these triggers empowers women to navigate their emotions, fostering self-awareness and resilience.   3.  Grieving and Releasing Healing often involves a process of grieving – mourning the losses, injustices, and missed opportunities. It’s shedding tears for the pain endured and the dreams deferred. Grieving is not a sign of weakness; it’s a cathartic release, allowing suppressed emotions to surface and find expression. Through this process, Black women can release the burdens they carry, making room for light, hope, and new beginnings. 4. Rediscovering Identity and Empowerment As the layers of trauma are peeled away, a profound rediscovery occurs. Black women reconnect with their roots, heritage, and cultural identity. This rediscovery is empowering; it reminds them of their resilience, the strength of their ancestors, and the legacy they carry. It’s a transformative stage where self-love blossoms, and women embrace their unique identity, unburdened by societal expectations.   5. Self-Compassion and Forgiveness Self-compassion is the cornerstone of healing. It involves treating oneself with the same kindness and understanding that one would offer to a dear friend. Black women learn to forgive themselves for perceived shortcomings, mistakes, and moments of perceived weakness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning past actions; it means releasing the hold these actions have on one’s present and future. Through self-compassion and forgiveness, women embrace their worthiness of love and joy.  6. Self-Compassion and Forgiveness  The final stage of healing is the reclamation of power – the acknowledgment that past traumas do not define one’s future. Black women emerge from their healing journey stronger, wiser, and more resilient. They use their newfound strength to advocate for themselves and their communities. They become beacons of hope, inspiring others to embark on their healing journeys. Thriving is not just surviving; it’s embracing life with passion, purpose, and a belief in one’s potential.   The Healing Community In this journey, healing doesn’t happen in isolation. It’s about asking for help when needed, whether through therapy, conversations with elders, or the unwavering support of friends. Healing is a collective effort, a shared responsibility within the community. It’s about understanding that reaching out is not a sign of weakness but a courageous act of self-preservation. When Black women stand together, supporting one another, the chains of pain break more easily, making way for profound transformation. In this multifaceted healing journey, Black women find their voice, reclaim their power, and break chains that have bound them for far too long. Each stage is a testament to their courage, strength, and the spirit that defines them. Together, they not only heal themselves but also create a legacy of empowerment, resilience, and unshakable self-love for generations to come. With boundless compassion and endless strength, Love and power, Velma Carter Centre Team